Hospitality as Evangelism

Sometimes, though, as churches grow and begin to plateau, the people get comfortable with those who are already there. We may begin to close off the church unintentionally by using insider language, failing to notify the surrounding community about times of worship services, and assuming that everyone in the community has a church home. The neighborhood demographics may be changing, and current church members may be driving in from a little farther away. When we’ve closed ourselves off, treat going to church as a task to check off for the week, make assumptions about who lives around us, or expect people to come to us and meet us where we are, we are not practicing Christian hospitality. And if people do visit, they will notice the lack of hospitality. The church won’t feel like a safe or welcoming space.

When I’ve asked churches about their hospitality and welcome, they usually identify themselves as friendly. But friendly is surface level. Hospitality is deeper. Hospitality is welcoming the stranger, entering into relationship, care, and concern for one another, maybe even sacrificing something so that another may receive what is needed. As you think about your congregation, ask yourself, “Are we friendly? Do we nurture and foster friendships? Are there people or groups of people who would not be welcomed or included in the church? What would someone new experience as they enter the doors?” As you think through these questions, you could consider walking through the hospitality assessment on UMOfficialResources.com/Guidelines. The assessment will give you some starting points for growing more hospitable, especially when people enter the life of the church. What steps need to happen to begin creating a welcoming and safe space so that Christian hospitality is offered and experienced?

Christian hospitality not only means creating a safe and welcoming space, but it also means listening while seeking to understand others and growing a capacity for empathy. As we encounter people in our day-to-day living, we may have multiple opportunities to really listen to others. If we aren’t intentional with active listening, we may rush through the conversation, leaving the other person feeling unheard or misunderstood. With love, patience, and humility, we can begin the practice of engaged listening. Engaged listening begins as we allow ourselves to be present with others. Oftentimes, it is difficult to put away distractions, whether it is a work task or stress. We may even be distracted because we’re thinking of our reply —maybe before the person we’re speaking with has even begun talking. As we begin to engage in conversations with others, it may be helpful to keep these questions in mind as you begin the practice of engaged listening.

• What can you learn from them?
• What are their “why” concerns, passions, and dreams? What do they value?
• What gifts are present, and is there someone who would be a good connector with those gifts?
• What experiences have they gone through or are going through, and how have those experiences shaped their lives?

These questions can help us focus our listening on the person we’re speaking with, offer us a chance to listen more deeply, and provide potential connecting points with other people or an invitation into the life of the church and faith community. Active listening is an opportunity to be present and to experience another’s heart that sometimes may be in pain, full of joy, overwhelmed with heaviness, hope-filled, or empty; all have a story that needs to be heard. By intentionally listening, we offer Christian hospitality. Healing and wholeness can take place as you live out your discipleship of Jesus, sharing the good news and creating a safe and welcoming presence through emphatic listening.

Serving and advocating for people who are marginalized and oppressed moves us more deeply into Christian hospitality. Caring for those who are being hurt by political, economic, and social systems is rooted in Jesus’ teachings. He understood marginalized people and empathized and struggled with them in his life, his teachings, and his death. Jesus offers hope and shows us what God’s love looks like. If we are to grow to be more like Jesus, then we too should care for those who are oppressed, marginalized, and dehumanized through unjust systems. As Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. prophetically pointed out, the contemporary church risks becoming marginalized if it fails to uphold its historical commitment to understanding and serving the needs of all members of society. Offering Christian hospitality leads us to stand up and stand with the voices that are seeking to be heard or that are being quieted by the powers that be. Creating avenues for conversation around issues such as immigration, LGBTQ rights, women’s rights and health care, the land-back movement and native sovereignty issues, gun control, racism, poverty, and public education (the list goes on) is an expression of hospitality. There are opportunities to offer a Christian hospitable welcome with compassion in meeting short-term needs as we work toward a more just and righteous ordering of society. The church can offer a witness to our communities and to the world of what real hospitality and welcome look like. This is good news that people need to hear and see in action.

Out of the challenges and disruptions of the past several years, the church has hopeful opportunities ahead. The practice of Christian hospitality that seeks to create a safe and welcoming space, actively listens and grows in empathy, and serves and advocates for those oppressed and marginalized can offer real transformative good news, not only for individuals but for whole communities— and not only for whole communities but the world. This approach to hospitality reflects the love of Christ and is necessary as we seek to be disciples who share God’s love for the transformation of the world from the way that it is now (divided, hostile, and inhospitable to those who are not like the dominant culture) into more like what God created it to be, where all have access to love and the flourishing of life.