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How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk

by Dr. John Van Epp, Ph.D. (New York: McGraw-Hill, 2007)
The author describes five dynamics that create the feelings of attachment in every relationship: knowledge, trust, reliance, commitment, and sex. Understanding these dynamics can help persons avoid forming over-attachments of the heart that can override the judgments of the mind. Dr. Van Epp provides the following rule of thumb: "The degree or level of each bonding dynamic should never exceed the level of the previous." Participants learn to accurately predict what a person will be like after marriage by thoroughly investigating five specific areas (family background, conscience, compatibility potential, relationship skills, and past relationship patterns).